The concept of being an alpha male is intrinsically flawed. When you think of an alpha male you think of someone who’s physically strong, who maybe gets in a fight every now and then, who’s possessive over his partner – but in this day and age, thankfully we have a different view of what masculinity entails and what it means to be a man and a great father. Here are some tips on how to be a ‘real’ man…
Spend Time With Your Family
There aren’t any gifts that are more valuable than time. A lot of men don’t spend enough time with their families – they come home late from work and then spend their weekends with friends or at various sporting engagements. But one way to make your kids feel confident and your partner secure in your relationship is to make sure that you spend as much time with them as you can. Sometimes it’s hard to know how to interact with babies and toddlers but luckily the more time you spend with them, the better you’ll get to know them and the easier it will get. If you’re a constant presence in their lives, they’ll know that they can come to you with anything in the future and that you’ll be there for them.
Go To The Experts
A lot of men attempt to do everything for themselves and refuse to admit when they need help, but that obviously isn’t a healthy or productive way to live! Make sure that when you need advice, you ask for it – if you aren’t sure how to fix the leaky sink then call a plumber to do it for you, if you need legal advice then talk to a lawyer like Pinder Reaux & Associates instead of spending hours on google. Not knowing how to do something doesn’t make you less of a man or less of a father or role model and admitting that you need help will enable your kids to do the same in the future.
Lead By Example
No matter what behaviour your children see from you, they will start to mirror it in the outside world away from your family, which is why it’s so crucial that you lead by example. If you blow up and get angry during arguments, then your children will end up doing the same thing, and if you squeeze down your feelings and emotions until you end up exploding then you’ll soon find that your kids deal with their feelings in an equally unproductive way. If you foster an atmosphere of healthy communication and talking out feelings and being physically gentle, then your kids will grow up knowing that this is the best way to deal with their own emotions, and will become more emotionally healthy adults as a result. Likewise, the way you speak to your children’s mother will absolutely inform your kids’ future relationships, both in the way that your sons react to women and your daughters choose their partners. It’s crucial that you remain calm and respectful at all times so your kids can see how they should behave in their own relationships.